In recent weeks, current and former Dugar fans are seeing in a new light the once neglected moments in family history.
There is much more to digesting predictable scenes with Duggar’s parents, starting with the way Duggar’s upbringing affected his daughters throughout his life.
One of the latest points of interest is an old clip of Jill Dugar with her husband, Derrick Dillard.
Fans find Derrick’s rant off-putting and think Jill was weird … but what they’re seeing is probably the result of a lifetime of conditioning.
In this throwback clip, which was discussed by social media users, Jill and Derrick were at a restaurant.
For whatever reason, Derrick decided to make a philosophical wax about what marriage means.
“Marriage is like a lifelong learning,” he declared, comparing the relationship to an educational pursuit.
Already married and already parents, Derrick continues to resemble.
“So right now I have my high school diploma at Jill Dillard,” he featured.
“But I want you to study more,” Derrick said, “and I want to get my undergraduate and postgraduate degree.”
“Finally I want to do a PhD at Jill Dillard,” Derrick went on.
“So,” he continued, “I can think before you think.”
This is a silly analogy, and the last line may be a bit unprepared even though it was well-intentioned.
Those who re-watched the clip actually influenced Jill’s behavior.
Jill seems to be smiling awkwardly as Derrick speaks.
Some fans felt that she was just as uncomfortable listening to her husband.
Reddit was discussed in the comments because people were thinking about Jill at the time.
One writes: “I can only hear Jill’s inner conversation, ‘OK smile and pretend she’s being sweet and funny even though she’s feeling empty.'”
“I’m not sure what my husband thought before I thought about it,” commented another. “Looks like it could be a big problem.”
It is certainly possible that Jill, despite having no work experience due to her religious beliefs, is doing the feminine version of a “customer service face”.
Countless cashiers and waiters have had to stand and laugh and listen when customers say the perfect nonsense to them.
We don’t want to shout at toxic customers – okay, just not. Sometimes a person would stop at a deli counter and spend 20 minutes talking about being guided by angels.
As we said, Jill didn’t have that exact experience.
From birth, she was raised as a wife and a mother and a Christian, nothing more.
But listening to nonsense in your mouth can be a universal experience. Even – perhaps especially – for cultists.
No one can help but be surprised that the apparent discomfort that the audience is feeling is due to the projection.
Jill’s expression can be explained by the teachings of the cult, claiming that women always smile brightly at their husbands in a visible way and worship him.
Instead of just listening to Derrick, Jill may have felt the need to do extra work by paying attention to his every word. Although he missed the mark a little.